tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post115558190855777727..comments2023-04-02T05:24:28.941-04:00Comments on Just a trumpet player: The motherhood talk...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1156308709461569452006-08-23T00:51:00.000-04:002006-08-23T00:51:00.000-04:00WOW!!! Very powerful post ...WOW!!! Very powerful post ...Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17143083843846956425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1156095068410476822006-08-20T13:31:00.000-04:002006-08-20T13:31:00.000-04:00If one really has the desire to be a parent...that...If one really has the desire to be a parent...that is all that matters...not who deserves it more. It must really hurt to be told what you have been told.<BR/>Sometimes, when we let go of the angst of wanting something so badly...thats when we get it!<BR/>Best of luck to you!<BR/>Here from Michele's!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1156020942216142262006-08-19T16:55:00.000-04:002006-08-19T16:55:00.000-04:00Sorry she is being such a pain about the whole thi...Sorry she is being such a pain about the whole thing. Life is about relativity. The worse things and the best things in our lives are our starting points. The worse things in our lives may be the best things in other people's lives. Just because we have a pain doesn't mean we have to be one.<BR/><BR/>Sorry about your situation. It is no less difficult for you. I can only imagine.Shooterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11656517165411195906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155928624512099572006-08-18T15:17:00.000-04:002006-08-18T15:17:00.000-04:00You said it "life is not fair". There is always so...You said it "life is not fair". There is always someone out there that has it better, always (appears anyway) to get every thing they ever wanted. You and everyone else can only do so much. It can be hard to accept what we get, but I'm a firm believer in "it can always be worse"<BR/>Hi here by way of Michele's today.... Paigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04702664099837224184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155917649451307912006-08-18T12:14:00.000-04:002006-08-18T12:14:00.000-04:00I love your perspective, and wish I had read your ...I love your perspective, and wish I had read your words when we were going through miscarriages and heartbreak.<BR/><BR/>What bothers me is people's assumption that they have a "plan", that life simply HAS to adhere to that plan, and that they are somehow being ripped off if that doesn't happen.<BR/><BR/>I wish these folks would get real. Life unfolds according to its own damn whims. Sure, we can plan all we want, but at some point, we're simply along for the ride.<BR/><BR/>Whatever happens - baby, no baby, whatever - we should feel blessed that we're here to witness any of it. Anyone who whines otherwise deserves a smack on the head.carmilevyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00360045114379957605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155916903908972632006-08-18T12:01:00.000-04:002006-08-18T12:01:00.000-04:00I agree..I have a friend who is going through the ...I agree..I have a friend who is going through the same thing all all she does is cry because she is not pregnant...but hten she is crying becasue she wants to leave her husband and is cheating on him with another man...this is gods way of telling you that you are not ready for a baby...its not in his plan for you now...things just happen that way.<BR/><BR/>Michele sent me ;)Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139848568999307059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155912167568275832006-08-18T10:42:00.001-04:002006-08-18T10:42:00.001-04:00I thought Michele sent ME, am I at the wrong house...I thought Michele sent ME, am I at the wrong house? lol<BR/>I'm 43 and can't have children. It bothered me until I hit my 40's, then I got over it.<BR/>Some folks just want to whine about something, and this family member sounds like a whiner. Tell her to do foster care or adopt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155912134807656132006-08-18T10:42:00.000-04:002006-08-18T10:42:00.000-04:00Oh, I hear you !I know such deserving people with ...Oh, I hear you !<BR/><BR/>I know such deserving people with one child or two already ... having trouble getting any further along the sibling line.<BR/><BR/>None bitch or whine, although many are hurt by the comments of others. <BR/><BR/>I wish you much future fertility !LBAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05433555112198668513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155909445275022712006-08-18T09:57:00.000-04:002006-08-18T09:57:00.000-04:00She does sound quite self-centered, JATP. I've kno...She does sound quite self-centered, JATP. I've known many people like that in my life but fortunately none are related to me. It's a lot harder to avoid relatives. Too bad for you since this woman sounds quite annoying!<BR/><BR/>Michele sent me to see you--and I'm a bit late in posting. Sorry!utenzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15988445461413550750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155907819420549812006-08-18T09:30:00.000-04:002006-08-18T09:30:00.000-04:00I so want to reach out and hug you...I have 2 kids...I so want to reach out and hug you...<BR/><BR/>I have 2 kids my son is 18 the 2oth of this month and my daughter will be 16 in nov<BR/><BR/>but me and my current husband dont have a child.. I lost the only baby I got pregnant with (miscarriage)<BR/><BR/>He and I have tried for 8 years..<BR/>did the calander-cycle thing<BR/>did shots given by the dr<BR/>did artificial insemination<BR/><BR/>and just when they were going to do invitro insemination my insurence decided to change thier policy<BR/><BR/>so I have to live and be happy ith the 2 I have (I feel for my husband though he is the only boy in his family)<BR/><BR/>but I know how frustration this process can be<BR/><BR/>I just want to reach out and hug you <BR/>and you have every right to open up and cry on a shoulder about not being able to concieve naturally<BR/><BR/>you need to bitch and complain (opens arms) I am here and listening <BR/><BR/>just dont do what we all have tendecy to do and blame yourself<BR/><BR/>(I know I did after my miscarriage) it isnt you<BR/><BR/>it is just the way life is<BR/><BR/><BR/>okay one more hug to you before I post thisNovember Rainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06149348281475992767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155821216451045862006-08-17T09:26:00.000-04:002006-08-17T09:26:00.000-04:00Diane Mandy : I couldn't agree more with you. To b...Diane Mandy : <BR/>I couldn't agree more with you. To be or not to be a parent should be a personnal decision, and one should not have to give any explications other than to himself ! (or a partner...) <BR/><BR/>And not being a parent should not be considered as ''missing out'' on something ...Just a trumpet playerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01392398536254080285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155781647207186672006-08-16T22:27:00.000-04:002006-08-16T22:27:00.000-04:00Can I add one little thing (albeit a little off th...Can I add one little thing (albeit a little off the subject). I do agree with you wholeheartedly. But I also think that women of a certain age who decided not to become parents should aso not be judged. Sometimes I feel like the only woman out there is is still (at 38 years old) totally undecided about the notion of being a parent.Diane Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00059365308496711788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155598040283190242006-08-14T19:27:00.000-04:002006-08-14T19:27:00.000-04:00Calliope : well, they say that with lots of pratic...Calliope : well, they say that with lots of pratice (or trying) you make the most beautiful babies... Watch out !!!!Just a trumpet playerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01392398536254080285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155590890341920362006-08-14T17:28:00.000-04:002006-08-14T17:28:00.000-04:00wait- I TOTALLY deserve it more than some people!j...wait- I TOTALLY deserve it more than some people!<BR/><BR/>just kidding!<BR/><BR/>xoCalliopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05926986916101638078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15690134.post-1155585395390280352006-08-14T15:56:00.000-04:002006-08-14T15:56:00.000-04:00Shrug it off, you're right, she's wrong. She does...Shrug it off, you're right, she's wrong. She doesn't deserve to be a parent any more then you and she doesn't have more of a right to be upset by how hard it's been then you. <BR/><BR/>Unfortunatley you can't change people..or maime them in any way...sad I know.Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06016235174235419233noreply@blogger.com