Sunday, May 14, 2006

Things I never told my mom...



My mom had a major stroke back in February and had a couple more episodes since. It's been a bumpy road and we're still pretty worried. I'm still taken aback everytime the phone rings at unusual hours. What if...

Her mobility is still a big problem and so is her memory ; long term & short term. She remembers us but can't recall our age or differentiate our voice. She can do Sudoku exercises at the speed of lightning but can't remember if she took her meds or ate, 5 minutes ago...

Here's a list of things I wish I'd told her before her ordeal. She is still alive, I know. But moms are ment to bother you and pester you with the small stuff. It is now that I wish she would come back and hunt me for the rest of my life with those things...

So here we go :

I love you : It's just not something we do in the family ; telling one another that we love each other. I don't know why. But there seem to be a real discomfort in doing so. Maybe that explain why I'm having such a hard time telling boyfriends that I love them...

I missed you : My mother was absent for a very long time. For some very good reasons and for some very wrong ones too. She came back in my life in my early twenties and tried to buy herself in... Didn't work ; I didn't need her in my life the way I did growing up and beside, you can't buy love. It took me a very long time to let her back in my life ; we needed to tame our relationship.

I don't keep parsley in my car : No mom, that thing wasn't parsley... but I do love your naïvety !

I DID got kicked out of school : For selling hard liquor. In grade 8. In a field trip. Yes, I know it was very wrong. But darn, it did made those Religious Study quizzes a lot funnier !!

I didn't wait to be in college to have sex : I was actually 13... What can I say ; I was VERY curious ! The good thing is : I never regretted a thing.

I did moved in with Denis... : I kinda skipped that part when I said I was moving in with Isabelle and a friend ... In my defence, you never asked the gender of the said friend !!!!

You are the worst cook ever : Hum... I don't want to hurt your fellings and I'm pretty sure you noticed the fact that EVERYBODY tries to avoid ever having to eat at your place but it sure feels great to say it outloud !

We do like the fact that you are deaf : it sure makes playing with your mind a lot easier !

I'm proud of you : for setting yourself some incredible goals, raising the bar and achieving your dreams.

And you : What do you wish you could tell your mom ?

15 comments:

Shane said...

happy mother's day!

a touching post. You were a naughty girl.

michele sends me to naughty girl blogs

Carmi said...

What a lovely tribute to your Mom.

I would thank my Mom for making sure I made it into adulthood in one piece. Because of her, I was able to find myself and have enough confidence to follow my passion.

Nice to meet another Quebecer - I was born in Montreal, lived in Laval and DDO before moving out-of-province a few years back. We still drive home to visit family at least 3-4 times a year.

kenju said...

Oh, Lordy, that would take a whole book and I am too tired to write it now. My mom has been gone a long time, and I guess the first thing I would say is that I miss the mom she was when I was a little girl.

Michele sent me.

David said...

wow - thats a hard act to follow

Daughter In Law said...

michele sent me.

I would tell my mom thanks for being strict. Clearly I needed it.

Yo Tambien Te Mando Besos said...

My mom is still very, very around so I still have a lot of things I would like to say to her but still can't. Probably will wait until I have my own children and feel regret or something!

Here from Michele!

Sandy said...

My mom and I close and share a whole lot, but I don't think you can ever say "I love you. I admire you. I thank you. I appreciate you." enough.

Michele sent me over.

Sandy J said...

Hi, here from Michelle!

If my mom were still alive, I would tell her it is okay that she screwed up so much when she was younger and that I love her anyway.

Terri said...

Hi..from Michele's
I'd tell my mom I wish I'd gotten back into knitting while she was still here so we could have shared it together.

Janet (fondofsnape@gmail.com) said...

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom's stroke...I guess that's a picture of her at a much younger age. She's very pretty!

Kissing Bandit said...

What I wish I told my mom? Good-bye.

My heart goes out to you and your mother. Cherish all the moments you have left with her.

KB

caramaena said...

Here via Michele's - lovely post.

Anonymous said...

"I love you" is difficult for me to say to mom as well. I say it often to my daughter and I love hearing it back from her. I wish I can be like that to my mother as well. I will try, thanks for the reminder to do while they are still well and healthy.

Michele said...

What a lovely and touching post. Your Mother must be so very proud of you, despite the fact that you were obviously rebellious in your younger days (and perhaps still are) you are also caring, considerate and loving.

The one thing I wish I could tell me mother? To smile more often. The one thing I do tell her every single day: that I love her.

Thank you for pointing me in the direction of this wonderful post.

Anonymous said...

Do most people have sex when they are 13.I just want to know?